Their eyes meet from across the room. She tries to talk herself out of being attracted to him; he thinks she’s beautiful. It seems like every place she goes, he’s there. Finally he catches her in a moment with no one around and he hones in to speak to her, one on one. He’s totally enchanted with her and she, him. They arrange a meeting and then another. After being with her for a while, although he’s sure he loves her, he starts to notice the deep wounds she carries. The more he’s with her, the more prominent the wounds become.
She doesn’t show them to everyone, but she thought she could trust him. Why else would there be such chemistry and attraction between them if she wasn’t safe to show him who she really is, what has happened to her? Surely she’s safe with him. She wasn’t. She was wrong. Eventually she finds that he, too, once her man of promise, has abandoned her.
Nothing is more beautiful than being loved by someone not because of all you’ve been through and who you really are…but in spite of it. They come to know even the ugliest you and to your surprise, love you any way. That’s what real love does. Too often though for one reason or another – good reasons and bad – we find we’re too heavy a package that people drop too easily. We find people can’t handle our reality – the real us. They like us, they love us, they hate us. No matter how hard we try to “be good”, be what the other one wants and needs, it’s never enough.
All of us carry wounds others have no idea about until we let them close enough to see. When we’re exposed, they may decide they can’t handle it and they sometimes become distant. Love is an overused and abused word used often with good intentions but few results. Some have heard that word so many times (chimed in with other well-intended promises of faithfulness and love) we don’t want to take the chance on hearing it again.
We can totally expose ourselves to Jesus. We may as well, he knows it’s all there anyway. He can handle it. He’ll never walk away no matter what has to be done to heal the wounds…ALL of them. He’s perfect love, and human love can only be successful through Him (I believe). He’ll never be intimidated and reject us because of anything we’ve been through, done or are going through. We’ll never be too much, too wounded, too lost or too far gone for Him. He can handle it. As a matter of fact, what’s hurt us the most and left the ugliest scar on us, He died for. He came specifically so we could be one with Him, expose ourselves completely to Him and let Him heal us. He can even make the scars more beautiful. He changes them from something we seek to cover to things of beauty we long to expose to glorify Him.
Whatever’s going on with you, He can handle it. Whatever you’ve done, He can handle it. He died so He could make you whole. You, beloved, can trust Him. Will you?
Matthew 11:28: “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. (NASB)